If you envision yourself living somewhere else but haven’t mustered up the courage to leave just yet, then you’ve come to the right place. Check out the following smart ways to decipher whether or not you should be moving, and if moving really is in your cards what it is that is holding you back.
1. What Do You Want To Be Different In Your Life?
You need to get to the root of why you truly want to move. “If you can’t meet a guy, find it difficult to form friendships, or if there’s always something wrong with your coworkers, those are internal factors that a move won’t change,” says Rhonda Sutton, Ph.D., a therapist in Raleigh, North Carolina. A move can change external aspects of your experience, like the weather, nightlife and cost of living. Sutton suggests you make a list of internal and external reasons you want to move. If you have more external reasons than internal ones then relocating may be a good idea.
2. Trust Yourself
Because you moved and left behind your old life, you are going to have to trust yourself a great deal and look for ways to comfort yourself. “We are creatures of our environments,” says Paul Dolan, author of Happiness by Design. “The brain creates habit loops to conserve energy and automate processes whenever possible.” So start making new routines in your area.
3. Experiment With Who You Want To Be
A move can allow you to start from scratch and build up new hobbies and routines. “A fresh start not only moves you closer to your desires and dreams, but it also allows you to redefine them,” Dolan says. For example, if you are more of a homebody but you spent countless nights partying where you used to live, this is the time to turn that around. It may be a lot easier to do so now that you’re starting from scratch.
Remember to consult your physician before taking any health advice.