What do you do when you’re tired and feeling frustrated? I used to give into my negative emotions and tell people, “I’m so tired!” Or “Work was really difficult today.” I have since learned that complaining about my “problems” only makes them more intense and causes me to close myself off to all of the wonderful things in my life.
Having read a great deal of articles on self-improvement, none have made me feel better than when I came across ones that dealt with our inner dialogue. What we say to ourselves matters more than I ever thought possible. Our thoughts become our feelings and our feelings become our reality. When we complain, complain, complain, what we are focusing on just becomes worse.
So instead of focusing on the negatives, I have learned to rephrase what may initially be bothering me. For example, if my workload seems extremely heavy, instead of saying, “I don’t want to do this, I’m tired and bored.”, I change it to, “This isn’t an especially difficult task, I can finish it in a short amount of time and I’m excited to learn new information.” The difference in dialogues is tremendous because the first one made me feel exhausted, lazy and incompetent. Meanwhile, the second one made me feel energized, excited and joyful.
We need to be constantly reminding ourselves to choose thoughts that empower us and comfort us. The key to forming a habit is repetition. We really can feel better.
If you’re having trouble with this exercise, remember that you don’t have to change a negative thought to an extremely positive one. For example, if you’re feeling fat instead of saying, “Ew, I’m so gross, who would want to be with me.”, say, “I may not feel as good as I want to right now but I am beautiful no matter what and I’ll get to where I want to be.”
Remember to consult your physician or chiropractor before taking any health advice.